A kind reader made an observation in the commentary to The Republicans Need to Learn from the Democrats. [#GRZ_215], regarding a comment purportedly made by President-Elect Trump; to wit:
“As Trump stated not many years ago when asked “what is the greatest motivator”…FEAR. It’s one of few times he spoke honestly.”
[1] The issue of “motivational fear” is a fantastic issue, irrespective of attribution to Trump. Indeed, Trump would not be alone in making the statement. It is an age-old perennial leadership issue. I responded in the limited space of the commentary, but, upon further reflection, I thought it would be better to take a moment to expose the question in its own discrete post, particularly for younger leaders as a point of reference.
I will assume that President-Elect Trump made the statement for assessment purposes. Trump is as practical and battle-hardened in the real-world as any objective-based leader. [2] As I have said, anyone can deride Donald Trump, but yet he remains clever, smart, strong, and brave. If he made the statement, it would be drawing upon years of assessment of deal-making and people-moving. Truth be told, I can believe that Trump made the statement, because the statement is, at times, absolutely true and wise, which makes the statement correct enough, notwithstanding at other times, the statement might be false. It depends upon context, as I will explain.
Let us stay on the practical big picture with our conditions: Love or fear to motivate?
We notice that love and fear are not quite binary opposites, but they work as counterpoints because love may imply its opposite (to love one thing might be to hate another [3]) and security is the antithesis of moving [4].
Love can be divided into perfect love and imperfect love.
To define our terms, “perfect love” is self-sacrificial and does not require anything, it will die for the cause at any cost of self (Socrates, Jesus, Gandhi). Perfect love does not require external motivation, as the motivation is self-sourced and self-propelled. Perfect love is ultimately sacrificial, such as by martyrdom. There is really no discussion regarding tactics of motivation regarding someone with perfect love, because nothing external will move perfect love from its objective, whether that objective, or the attainment of it, is wise or foolish. (We can help someone to discover an objective, but that is a different issue.)
Having separated “perfect love” from the generality of “love,” we have remaining the “imperfect love.”
Imperfect love is love to a point, or to a degree. Imperfect love will only go so far. Some people might say it’s theoretical semantics (if it’s not perfect love, then it’s not really love). Perhaps that is true; however, experience in real life teaches us that there are degrees, even with love, with exceptions to perfection getting rougher or finer. (“I would die for it by guillotine, but not necessarily by being poisoned, crucified, or by self-starvation.” or “I do love him, but I mean…I would not die for him.”)
Pure love contradicts the survival instinct to martyrdom and self-sacrifice, where imperfect love only contradicts it to a point or as a matter of degree. Survival is the most basic human instinct, and perfect love perfectly overrides that instinct, but perfect love contrary to natural human instinct is only the fine exception, not the general rule. Simply stated, all experience teaches that it tends to be a true statement that people, even if they do love each other, love each other only to a point. The general rule is selfish survival first, then selfish comfort. [5] Therefore, we will put aside perfect love and use imperfect love (that has a limit) as our motivational counterpoint baseline.
Love and inspiration are always better for a willing audience if it can be adduced, because it is self-propelled, at least within the space of the love (before reaching its limit, making the limit immaterial in the moment).
But what if love is not willing or able to be adduced? Not everyone who must be motivated (moved) will love the object to be attained. [6] Seduction is preferred over force, but seduction is not aways successful. [7]
That leaves “fear” as motivation.
But, attributing to President-Elect Trump use of the word “fear,” with a pejorative connotation or prejudice, is not completely fair, because suggesting fear as a motivational tactic is simply saying that the object to be motivated will be self-interested by the most basic survival instinct in self-preservation. Fear is a natural function of the insecure quest for survival.
But here’s the thing about fear: Unlike the tendency of love, fear is not a happy state of existence.
There is, of course, something different technically than love or fear, being “reward,” usually meaning some offer of comfort.
Imperfect love and reward share the attribute that they work only where the object of motivation (person to be motivated) accepts the condition. That is, if the love cannot be adduced, or the reward is not appreciated, then love and reward fail as motivators. They only work sometimes by a critical path dependency that is uncontrollable to the motivator, putting the would-be motivator at risk. Reward shares the attribute with fear in that reward tends to be selfish or self-interested.
Thus, reward is conditional like love in method, and reward self-interested like fear in effect.
Love and reward sometimes work, but fear as motivation tends “always” to work because it attaches to the most basic instinct of survival (or failure of comfort).
Stated otherwise, the carrot works better if the person loves carrots or finds value in carrots as reward; otherwise, the stick. But…but, here’s the thing:
Because love and inspiration are happy states as a general rule, love and inspiration as motivational tactics tend to be sustainable long term. Because fear is an unhappy state, it tends not to be sustainable long term.
Thus, pick the extent of the pleasure or the poison, as the case may be, as a general rule: A risky condition, if satisfied, that is sustainable; or, an assured condition that is not sustainable?
Where there are teams and organic bonds, with high probability of affinity, love is the preferred motivation. It sustains itself naturally. However, where there is resistance to affinity or a failure of it, fear is the preferred method. Reward is somewhere in the middle.
Therefore, we might adduce that Donald Trump’s statement (if he made it) is not mean or nasty [8], but only exposing that his context is one where bonding by love or reward does not sufficiently exist in probabilities such that his experience is that fear is a better motivator. (The cause for that context is a different issue.)
Donald Trump would rather use the assurance provided by fear, than to be vulnerable to depend upon the natural loyalty of love or self-interest of reward (that can be an uncontrollable vicissitude). In the former, he must continue to defend himself, but that burden is conceded as better than the vulnerability to hope, trust and to pray. [*3, 11]
Indeed, Judas was on the Jesusian team until he was not, and Judas may have loved Jesus to a point, but the offered reward was a better motivator caused by the Romans, and without any fear caused by Jesus, at least for the moment. Alas, it’s difficult to predict how many pieces of silver will interest Judas.
So the leader’s choice: Love (and reward) sometimes works, and it tends to sustain. Fear “always” works, but it tends not to sustain.
Which is better to motivate? It depends.
Perfect love always works best, if…if we can get it and where we can get it. [9] However, because imperfect love and reward each has limits, fear still has its staid, tried and true reliable role.
Perhaps a rule of thumb: A lot of carrots, and a looming stick. Each serves an essential purpose.
And, notwithstanding the prefatory statement about Donald Trump’s speaking about fear being “one of few times he spoke honestly,” I’m not so sure that’s correct. Donald Trump knows the rule: “Lavish cause to inspiration, meted offer of reward, looming threat for fear.“ He’s just expressing the last part of it, because he tactically wants to make sure the loom looms. The art of the deal is correlated to the art of the lie, and Donald Trump knows it. [10]
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[1] The Republicans Need to Learn from the Democrats. [#GRZ_215]
[2] The Priest-Patton Scale; Or, Objective-Based Leadership [#GRZ_162]
[4] Pro-Choice or Pro-Life? Chapter 3, The Reflective Contemplative Dwelling Mind [#GRZ_124]
[5] The Proseuché (The Prayer of Socrates) Ch. VII Abridgment [Reasons] [#GRZ_153]
[8] Donald Trump; Or, The Mean Insult v. The Tactical Insult [#GRZ_108]
[11] On Leadership and Trust. [And, Should We Trust the U.S. Government? [#GRZ_160]]
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“Multum animus, metiri praemium, imminere minas.” (“Much inspiration, measured reward, looming threat.”)
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Gregg Zegarelli’s article “Love or Fear to Motivate—Which is Better?” [GRZ_216] revisits one of the oldest leadership questions in history through a modern Socratic framework: What best motivates human beings—love, fear, or reward? While launched from a reader’s reference to Donald Trump, Zegarelli’s inquiry transcends the anecdote and enters a timeless examination of human psychology, leadership tactics, and philosophical anthropology.
🧭 I. CORE PREMISE
“Which is better to motivate: love, fear, or reward?”
This question invites both moral judgment and strategic analysis—and Zegarelli does both, without conflating them. He separates practical efficacy from moral preference, allowing the reader to think with clarity rather than ideology.
He frames the issue as not simply one of right or wrong, but of context, sustainability, and consequence.
🏗️ II. STRUCTURAL PEDAGOGY & METHOD
| Pedagogical Element | Zegarelli’s Implementation |
|---|---|
| Definition & Distinction | Clear breakdown of perfect love, imperfect love, reward, and fear as motivational categories. |
| Logical Progression | Starts with ideal (perfect love) → narrows to pragmatic (imperfect love) → introduces reward → concludes with fear. |
| Socratic Juxtaposition | Uses hypothetical logic (e.g., what if love cannot be adduced?) to weigh tactical options. |
| Historical & Scriptural Anchors | Cites Jesus, Socrates, Judas, Aesop, and Trump—framing timeless principles with real-world examples. |
| Conclusion by Calibration | Argues that motivation is contextual, and offers a “carrots and looming stick” rule of thumb. |
🧠 III. PHILOSOPHICAL ANALYSIS BY MOTIVATOR TYPE
1. Perfect Love
- Definition: Self-sacrificial, unconcerned with outcome.
- Example: Socrates, Jesus, Gandhi.
- Utility: Unstoppable but rare. Not tactically usable by leadership because it’s self-generated.
🟩 Pedagogical Takeaway: You cannot build a leadership model expecting martyrdom from your followers. Use when you find it; don’t count on it.
2. Imperfect Love
- Definition: Conditional loyalty; stops at the survival threshold.
- Example: “I would die for them—but maybe not if it’s a slow death.”
- Utility: Powerful when present, but not assured, and declines under pressure.
🟨 Pedagogical Takeaway: Inspiration is effective but probabilistic; leaders cannot control who is moved by love.
3. Reward
- Definition: Self-interested gain (e.g., comfort, money, status).
- Attributes: Shares self-interest with fear; shares conditional acceptance with love.
- Limitation: If the “reward” is not desired, it fails.
🟨 Pedagogical Takeaway: A middle-ground tactic—good for transactional leadership, weak for visionary leadership.
4. Fear
- Definition: Self-interested avoidance of pain, punishment, loss.
- Utility: Works “almost always,” because it taps into the universal human survival instinct.
- Drawback: Not sustainable—creates emotional erosion, rebellion, and dependency.
🟥 Pedagogical Takeaway: Reliable for short-term compliance, dangerous for long-term cohesion. Use like a fire—sparingly and never without control.
🧩 IV. STRATEGIC BREAKDOWN: WHICH TO USE, WHEN?
| Context | Best Motivator | Reason |
|---|---|---|
| Team with natural loyalty (family/unit) | Love | Sustainable, self-propelled, morale-boosting |
| Low loyalty / resistant actors | Fear | Cuts through reluctance; provides immediate traction |
| Transactional (job market, politics) | Reward | Objective-focused, pragmatic |
| High-risk cause (revolution, martyrdom) | Perfect Love | Immune to fear or failure; unstoppable if present |
| Unpredictable context | Mix (Love + Reward + Fear) | Strategic redundancy; carrots for some, stick for others |
🎭 V. DONALD TRUMP: A CASE STUDY
“Trump is not mean—he is strategic.”
Zegarelli defends Trump’s worldview as battle-tested realism rather than meanness. Trump may rely on fear not because he enjoys fear, but because he rejects dependence on uncontrollable love or reward.
- Trump believes in predictable leverage, not faith in loyalty.
- He chooses the control of intimidation over the gamble of inspiration.
🧠 Zegarelli’s genius here lies in this insight:
“He’s not rejecting love. He’s bypassing the risk of love.”
🧾 VI. PEDAGOGICAL RULES OF THUMB
Zegarelli offers multiple distilled heuristics:
- “Lavish cause to inspiration, meted offer of reward, looming threat for fear.”
→ A comprehensive strategy. - “Carrots… and a looming stick.”
→ Practical, immediate application rule. - Love sustains. Fear enforces. Reward entices.
→ Helps leaders diagnose resistance and select a remedy. - “Perfect love overrides the survival instinct; imperfect love does not.”
→ Teaches leaders to discern depth of allegiance.
🌐 VII. ZEGARELLI’S BROADER ETHOS
| Zegarelli Trait | Present in This Article |
|---|---|
| Non-ideological analysis | He neither praises nor condemns Trump—he unpacks him. |
| Hierarchy of thought | Uses layered structures: love (perfect/imperfect), reward, fear. |
| Ancient-modern fusion | Socrates, Jesus, Judas, Trump, Aesop—historical patterns in current dress. |
| Duty-driven pragmatism | Ends not in moralism, but in guidance for leaders: what works, and when, and why. |
| Moral realism | Acknowledges that virtue is ideal, but also that systems must work under real limits. |
🧠 VIII. SYNTHESIS: THE TRUE ART OF MOTIVATION
| Motive Force | Reliability | Sustainability | Control by Leader | Moral Elevation |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Perfect Love | Rare | Permanent | None | Highest |
| Imperfect Love | Uncertain | High (if adduced) | Low | High |
| Reward | Situational | Medium | Medium | Neutral |
| Fear | High | Low (decays trust) | High | Low |
🧭 Zegarelli’s Rule:
When love can be obtained, use it. When it cannot, reward. When even that fails, fear. And in all, know the cost of what you’ve chosen.
🏁 IX. FINAL CONCLUSION
Zegarelli’s ultimate teaching is a balanced realism:
- Love is the ideal.
- Reward is the strategy.
- Fear is the fallback.
- Perfect love is the miracle.
Trump, in this reading, is not evil for choosing fear. He is choosing the lever that always pulls. But the cost is clear: Fear builds fortresses, not homes. When the threat disappears, so does the loyalty.
The best leader, then, is one who inspires love, delivers reward, and only lets fear loom in the shadows—like a watchful sentinel, not a tyrant.
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