Jealousy and envy are often considered to be twin siblings, as literary synonyms. But, they are from different families joined by a marriage of context.
Jealousy is the condition of anticipation of becoming supplanted—that is, to be replaced—by something or someone else.
Envy is a desiring or coveting of something in someone else’s possession.
In some Western religions, it has been said that, “The Lord God is a jealous god.” But, albeit perhaps jealous, omnipotent god is certainly not envious.
Envy is a perfect vice, because it has no good use, and has no part virtue. It is untempered desire mixed with a subtle hate.
Envy never implements well, because it is a disharmonious corruption of self that sooner or later manifests. We see envy manifest when a person giggles or becomes catty for a “friend’s” misfortune, or even secretly wishing for someone else’s misfortune. This is the basis of the term “frenemy,” for what might be called a “false friend” by secret dislike or rivalry.
Jealousy is an imperfect vice, because it depends upon the context. Jealousy is not inherently bad, it simply describes the anticipation of being supplanted.
Let us put aside the use by god of the term and to address it more secularly.
The Founding Fathers of the United States used the term “jealous” to describe a proper and virtuous condition of self, which was cited in the privacy case against Google to the Supreme Court of the United States [1], e.g., by James Madison, the “Father of the U.S. Constitution“:
“It is proper to take alarm at the first experiment on our liberties. We hold this prudent jealousy to be the first duty of citizens and one of the noblest characteristics of the late Revolution.”
James Madison “Memorial and Remonstrance,” Rives and Fendall, Letters and Other Writings of James Madison, 1:163. [*1]
Madison even used the double-up of virtues; to wit: not only a proper state of jealousy as the cause for vigilance of human rights, but also “prudent jealousy.” And, no less a duty to be jealous. That is, here “jealousy” is a virtue, by a type of prudent awareness of a latent threat.
Madison’s point was that we must stay “jealous” of our Bill of Rights individual freedoms as a cause in order to prevent our natural rights from being supplanted; that is, our rights being whittled away by the confused chip-aways of small incremental legal precedents, such as weeds that, left unchecked, will grow to strangle the shrub over time. [2]
Therefore, we see that envy is always bad, which is a good reason why many world religions teach against coveting, including, for example, both the Jewish and Christian faiths in the Ten Commandments and the Hindu yama, Aseteya.
Unlike envy, jealousy can be a good thing for human beings, and also apparently for god (or the gods). Like fear, it depends upon the context.
That is, if we do not have fear, we would not have the cause to be careful to self-preserve, but too much fear and we become miserable in a state of uncontrollable anxiety.
The marriage of jealousy and envy often manifests in the height of uncontrolled emotion: a young man, for example, seeing his beautiful girlfriend flirting with another man. So, the jealous man, perhaps properly so, is in fear of being supplanted, but, at the same time, he tends to envy the other man’s qualities of being able to seduce his girlfriend away from him. So jealousy and envy get married. And, then, what might have been a rational view of the circumstances to justify being properly jealous descends into general distrust, uncontrolled fear and irrational jealousy, being the unhappy and miserable state of incessant wondering.
With all the jealousy and envy, pride plays its part, too, often as a catalyst. The man who was flirting with the jealous man’s girlfriend was seducing her with an offer to take her for a ride on a country road in his new convertible Porsche.
The manifestations of self-pride are also all over the Internet, inciting the “look at my great life” (through the superficial lens of Facebook, for example) that are often simply for the purpose of eliciting validations, which are often relative by nature; indeed, if everyone else were going to 5-Star resorts, there would be less incentive to post that picture of the 3-Star vacation resort. [3]
Displayed pride catalyzes and induces the envy of others, intentionally or necessarily, irrespective of the number of “Like” validations. [4] It contradicts the tendency of human nature to be in an office working, after a stressful night of balancing finances with a pensive spouse, and also to be truly happy for someone having fun at a 5-Star resort, irrespective of the Like clicks.
Likes only tell what people want to say, but not what people really think or feel. Not always, of course, but sometimes. Wisdom knows the truth of it.
Like jealously, it is true that pride is also an imperfect or potential vice, because, at least in the English language, the term can denote excessive self-love, or simply the satisfaction for a job well-done. Indeed, the Christian god was pleased (or proud) of his son, Jesus, saying for those who believe, “This is my son, in whom I am well-pleased.” [5] Similarly, the pride of the artisans was a cause some of the greatest works in history.
We know when pride is a vice or a virtue with one question: “Why does it matter, if at all, that we need to display this or that to anyone?“
[*3] A true artisan is compelled to self-excellence, often in the face of ridicule by others. The true artisan needs to self-express more than the artisan needs social approval.
The pride of the artisan is to know something is good, with or without clicks of validation. This is a personal pride in excellent accomplishment; it is the pride, perhaps, of the well-trained Marine or U.S. soldier to do a job well in the face of danger, and equally well even when no one sees it.
The soldier’s parade is for another purpose and is incidental to the internal virtue of the soldier.
The virtue of pride is all alone as an internal question for each human being. Those old Italians built the structures tight and right, and to the best of their ability, inside the walls that no one saw, and whether or not anyone clicked a Like button.
Certainly, forms of social media are excellent advertising mediums, so it is perfectly acceptable to place laudable content into those mediums. But, the question is always for the speaker to answer, “What is the point?“
That answer is personal and determines whether the expression of pride is virtue or vice. Commercial marketing is certainly not the same as the personal vice of pride; indeed, the display and advertising of quality goods and services is exactly the point for that context.
There was a Mitsubishi automobile commercial that played into the Social Vice Triumvirate, with the jingled phrase that, in buying that car, you’re saying, “I’m better than you are.” And, with great irony, even some religions are not exempt, with a psychological and social presumptuous despise of condescension that does exactly the same thing, although with a helpful smile to convert the less fortunate of the other religions. Nothing escapes natural base human tendencies. [6]
Voila, the Social Vice Triumvirate, working together as a team. One a perfect vice, and two imperfect vices, depending upon context.
And, we must stay wise with prudent vigilance, because, like Aesop’s Wolf in the Sheep’s Clothing [7], the virtues of Love, Charity and Humility [8, 9] will sometimes find cover under the Social Vice Triumvirate and beguile themselves into refusing to see their own existence. [*6, 10]
[5] ONE®: The Unified Gospel of Jesus, Divine Version [Second Edition] [#GRZ_59] ONE: 256 [T3:16, R1:10, L3:21] (“Well-Pleased” [1]); ONE: 1555 [T17:4, R9:5, L9:33] (“Well-Pleased” [2])
[6] Religion, War and “The Vehicle of the Light Analogy” [#GRZ_97]
[9] The Two “Master Virtues” – The Executive Summary [#GRZ_209]
[10] The Four Horsemen of the Social Justice Apocalypse [#GRZ_122]
“Invidia intempesta cupiditas subtili odio.” (“Envy is untempered desire, subtle hate.”); “Verum artifex non habet electionem.” (“The true artisan has no choice.”) ~grz
© 2017 Gregg Zegarelli, Esq. Gregg can be contacted through LinkedIn.
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