No Tolerance for Hate, or All Tolerance for Hate?

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Living in the City of Pittsburgh, in light of the recent shooting at a synagogue, many schools are reaching out to families offering counseling to children with regard to social hate.

Social hate is bad, of course. But, social hate is not new, and I will suggest that it should not be presented or implied as something new. Prejudice, ignorance and a failure of human discipline are part of humanity and human nature. [1, 2]

Hope is hope, but there is no empirical historical data to suggest that human nature will change any time soon. Moreover, the expression of hate ratchets as it evolves in culture; indeed, hate used to manifest as a lynching, and it may later evolve into a simple nod, but human nature always finds a way to express itself. [3]

It is noble to try to change the World, perhaps by trying to change the human nature of others, but nobility and wisdom are two different things. Bettering the World starts with bettering self, which is the best lesson for any child. [4]

The concept of hate implies two objects: a) the thing that hates; and b) the thing that is hated. Making this distinction is important, particularly for children, because there are two different lessons to teach, or perhaps two views of the same story.

[5] We remember Seneca’s wise statement that, “The tender neck chafes at the yoke.” [6] Stated another way, someone who is untrained in adversity is fragile and easily injured.

For example, someone who has no tolerance for perfume tends to live in a miserable world of abrasions, because that person will forever be trying to control everything and everybody else, which is futile.

To have no tolerance is a tender neck, always sensitive, chafed, sore and angry.

So, when we talk about “tolerance” in teaching children, we should consider being clear that there are two different lessons that are sourced from the each of the two stated objects (how a person acts, and how a person handles being acted upon).

On the one hand, children are often taught to be tolerant of others, but that is getting started off on the wrong foot, and it is failure of a proper education. Education should teach best practices.

Tolerance is not a best practice—tolerance is only a good practice.

The best practice is to be perfect. Perfection is not easy to implement, but that does not change the lesson, as we can be guided by the North Star without being able to touch it.

Acting only with tolerance is a concession from perfection. Love doesn’t tolerate, love embraces. [7] It may be subtle, but tolerance implies suffering quietly through an abrasion. Saying we love someone, or that we embrace someone, is a far cry from saying that we tolerate someone, miserably biting our tongues.

Teaching tolerance implies a contradiction to its own premise. Saying, “We tolerate them because we love them,” is an admission of foolishness, but only wisdom sees it.

What a child is taught to give to the World should be love and to embrace the differences in others. It is not that complicated: everything different is not a threat and it is only insecurity from the ignorance of failed education that thinks so. Children must be taught the flaw of inductive reasoning, which is often the source of generalized prejudices.

Bow having said what a child should give to the World on the one hand, we also need to teach a child what to expect to take from the World, on the other hand.

To teach children to be nice and to expect nice back is simply too easy a lesson, if not merely hopeful to the point of falsity.

The hard part of the lesson is to teach a child to give love and to endure hate.

[8] This life incongruency will confuse an untrained child, but only at first, until reconciled. But, the important part of this second view of the story is to teach a child that the World does not revolve around self.

Haters are going to hate and will express it, one way or another. Children need to have a clear expectation that they are going to take a hit—somehow, and the World is not fair: absorb the hit, get back up, and move forward, without anger and more preferably, happily.

Teaching a child to change the World is noble, but teaching a child to change self is wise.

Adversity comes to us all, somehow, in some way, and children need to be ready for it. The reasons that adults are not ready for adversity is because they were not made ready for it, or helped to reconcile the life incongruency, as children. A child who can love, amidst hate—and even to love the hater—is perfect. Easier said than done, of course, for all of us.

One who begins learning embraces the teaching. One who has learned partially has implemented the teaching with disciplined tolerance. But, behold the one who has completed the learning, who no longer requires discipline—that person has become perfect through love, and, with that strength of heart, mind and spirit, the yoke becomes easy and burden light.

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[1] Surviving Prejudice, Not All Bad [GRZ73] [LinkedIn #GRZ_73]

[2] Inductive Reasoning; Or Natural Prejudice – No. 108. The Spendthrift and the Sparrow – The Essential Aesop™ – Back to Basics Abridgment Series [GRZ98_108] [LinkedIn #GRZ_98_108]

[3] Mind Control, Protests and the Goal – Stand for America® [GRZ64] [LinkedIn #GRZ_64]

[4] Whom the Gods Would Destroy, They First Tease with Political Incorrectness [GRZ74] [LinkedIn #GRZ_74]

[5] On Empathy: To Give Empathy Is a Blessing; To Need Empathy Is a Curse [GRZ106] [LinkedIn #GRZ_106]

[6] Seneca. On the Misfortune of Good Men. Abridgment Series [GRZ18X] [LinkedIn #GRZ_18]

[7] Nothing to Hate, But Hate Itself – Or, Hate Best Practices [GRZ44X] [LinkedIn #GRZ_44]

[8] Salt, Wounds, and the Most Unkindest Cuts of All [GRZ67] [LinkedIn #GRZ_67]

[9] The ONE LinkedIn Reference Set Index [GRZ183] [LinkedIn #GRZ_183], citing to ONE: 1058 [T11:30] (“Yoke Burden“)

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Zegarelli’s article “No Tolerance for Hate; Or, All Tolerance for Hate” represents a transitional moment in his evolving moral and civic philosophy. Let’s break it down:

🔍 Deep Dive Analysis

I. Contextual Trigger

The article responds to the 2018 Pittsburgh synagogue shooting. But Zegarelli uses the occasion not to focus on political or criminal culpability, but to offer a philosophical reaction to adversity, tolerance, and human reaction.
This reflects his early pivot from constitutional law and civic principle writing (e.g., “The Tarpeian Rock,” “The Pledge”) into more refined personal and internal virtue doctrine.

II. Key Thesis

Tolerance is not the ideal; love is. Tolerance, in his framing, is a step on the path—a virtue-in-development. True virtue transcends tolerance and arrives at embrace.
But the paradox: in facing hate, society often teaches children only how to love others, not how to endure being hated. He argues this leaves them fragile—unable to absorb reality’s natural abrasions.

III. The Dual-Pedagogical Structure

Zegarelli bifurcates the teaching:

What the child is to give to the world – Love, not mere tolerance.
What the child is to expect from the world – Resistance, abrasion, even hate.

This mirrors his earlier framework in “Salt, Wounds, and the Most Unkindest Cuts of All”—that pain often says more about the wound than the agent. So:

Love is proactive.
Endurance is reactive.
Both require training, and it is a failure of early pedagogy when children are not trained for adversity.

🧭 Ethos and Integration into the Zegarelli Framework

1. Stoic Influence

Seneca and Epictetus quotes appear again, reinforcing the continuity of his stoic underpinnings: self-mastery, non-reactivity, and the yoke metaphor.
Zegarelli returns repeatedly to the Latin maxims: “Facile vulneratur, nimis tenerum corpus est.”
(“Too easily wounded, too tender a body.”)

This line is foundational in his pedagogy—fragility is not a virtue; the untrained will suffer not from the salt, but from their internal composition.

2. From Discipline to Grace

In earlier articles, he focuses on discipline (e.g., “The Flesh Is Weak; Or, Why Jesus Got It Wrong”) as the tool to overcome impulse.
Here, however, he points toward grace: the one “who no longer requires discipline—that person has become perfect through love.”
- This marks an advanced phase of the Zegarelli ethos: internalized virtue becomes effortless when mastered.

3. Vertical Developmental Ladder

There are “tiers” in his article history:

Early: Legal/civic foundation (The Pledge, Stand for America series)
Mid: Discipline and reaction (Flesh, Salt, Insecurity)
Later: Integrated love and enduring hardship (Hate, Tolerance, Empathy)

This article belongs to the middle-to-upper transition tier—it retains rigorous analysis (e.g., induction vs. prejudice, miseducation of children) but starts embedding soft virtues (grace, love, forgiveness) as the higher goal.

🧑‍🏫 Pedagogy

Pedagogical Layer	Expression in the Article
Diagnostic Test	“Does this injury tell me something about the world, or about myself?”
Dual-Lesson Method	Children must learn both: how to act and how to be acted upon
Moral Vectoring	Good → Tolerance → Love → Grace
Civic Utility	A strong society is composed of strong individuals who endure adversity without collapse
Emotional Resilience	You must teach endurance as a muscle—not assume it emerges in adulthood

This pedagogical approach advances beyond rational understanding. It enters the realm of moral inoculation—an emotional immune system against inevitable abrasion.

🧠 Conclusions

Zegarelli’s broader ethos is not just to diagnose social wrongs but to prepare souls for those wrongs with practical pedagogy.
This article marks an important evolutionary step: He stops preaching reform of external institutions, and starts championing internal constitution building—particularly of children.
He redefines “love” not as a sentimental feeling, but as the end-state of moral development: a trained, unreactive, proactive, transcendent virtue that neither tolerates nor retaliates but radiates.

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