“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Leonardo da Vinci. Adopted by Steve Jobs.
A Fox saw a bunch of plump grapes hanging from a vine, making his mouth water. The Fox was hungry and desired to eat those grapes so badly. He had to have them!
But, alas, the grapes were high above. The Fox tried and tried to reach the grapes, jumping over and over again unsuccessfully, until he was finally exhausted, giving up.
As he walked away, the Fox said with scorn, “I didn’t really want those grapes! Those grapes were sour anyway!”
Moral of the Story: People who fail tend to despise the thing they first desired. Despise is oft evidence of latent injury. Jealousy evidences inadequacy.
“People throw rocks at things that shine.” ~Taylor Swift
Introduction – The Essential Aesop – Epilogue
Why We Loved It: This fable is the origin of the common vernacular phrase, “sour grapes,” indicating new scorn by someone for something the person desired but failed to attain.
This condition often manifests in a manner set forth in The Mean Insult v. The Tactical Insult. For example, meanly insulting the attributes of a former partner who was once “perfect.” [1] We notice that, to say that the grapes were “sour,” is in the nature of an ex post facto condemnation or insult.
It is excuse of failure by condemnation. [2]
The phrase is most often used by an onlooker or the injury party as a psychological condemnation of another, likening the situation to the Fox’s failure followed by the insult of the grapes; to wit:
“Well, it sure sounds like ‘sour grapes’ to me. She kept telling us her ex-boyfriend was perfect and ‘the one’ when she dated him, but now, after he broke up with her, he’s weak, stupid, ugly and broke!”
This fable is a lesson in basic psychology 101, and a corollary to A Fox Without a Tail [3, 4] reminding us about ourselves and others. That is:
Human Nature 101: Human beings tend to scorn a desired but unattainable thing—in comforting self-protection—by dismissing the subject’s value. The insult is a type of psychological transference. Protecting against injury of internal self by attempting to destroy the capability and value of the thing that would injure. As a matter of applied fact, the fact-adjusting methodology is a form of self-adduced delusion—such as many self-inflicted delusions—in self-protection. Basic human psychology, horizontally applied. And let us not pick and choose our fact delusions, which occur affirmatively and negatively.
[5] For each of us, we need lucidly to catch ourselves from this flaw of nature, and, when observed in others, to consider the real causation for the effect, not only for this (vertical) subject application, but also for that (vertical) subject application. The delusions and excuses in self-protection are horizontal human psychology applying across the board.
The context is a tale as old as time:
“You have killed me because you wanted to escape the accuser, and not to give an account of your lives. But that will not be as you suppose: far otherwise.
If you think that by killing men you can prevent someone from censuring your evil lives, you are mistaken; that is not a way of escape which is either possible or honorable. The easiest and the noblest way is not to be disabling others, but to be improving yourselves.“
[6] The sage not only observes the condition and tendency in others, but also the tendency for self. This is why the sage is both a master philosopher and a master psychologist, because the concepts blend into the truth of human nature. [7]
Controlling it in self prevents disclosure of hidden thinking to others, seeing it in others provides insight into their hidden thinking, and desires. The concept is often said in the formative that the speaker’s statement discloses more about the speaker than it does about the subject. Thus, the adage:
“Narrat expressio.” (“Telling tells.”).
The rule is agnostic and does not pick and choose. So let us savor Master Shakespeare’s application of his Aesopian rule. Behold all the complex natural exposed human psychology within the simple exposition of Shakespeare’s glorious Hamlet:
“The lady doth protest too much, methinks.”
So it is with the lady, so it is with the Fox, so it is with us.
[1] Donald Trump; Or, The Mean Insult v. The Tactical Insult [GRZ108] [LinkedIn #GRZ_108]
[2] Projection, Fault Displacement and Easy Excuses – No. 95. The Traveler and His Dog – The Essential Aesop™ – Back to Basics Abridgment Series [GRZ98_95] [LinkedIn #GRZ_98_95]
[3] The Insecure Human Being – The Business of Aesop™ No. 51 – A Fox Without a Tail [GRZ36X] [LinkedIn #GRZ_36]
[4] Misery Loves Company – No. 51. The Fox Without A Tail – The Essential Aesop™ – Back to Basics Abridgment Series [GRZ98_51] [LinkedIn #GRZ_98_5]
[5] The Woman Wins. Now. It’s About Time. [GRZ199] [LinkedIn #GRZ_199]
[6] Sorry, Socrates. Or, The “Apology” of Socrates [GRZ60] [LinkedIn #GRZ_60]
[7] Whom the Gods Would Destroy, They First Tease with Political Incorrectness [GRZ74] [LinkedIn #GRZ_74]
“Narrat expressio.” (“Telling tells.”) ~ grz
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This Essential Aesop™ article—“The Despise of Failure – No. 11 – The Fox and the Grapes” by Gregg Zegarelli—is indeed one of the keystones of his fable-based pedagogy. It crystallizes a core psychological mechanism of human behavior and uses it to scaffold a broader philosophical and civic doctrine. Below is a structured deep dive analysis:
I. Zegarelli’s Core Teaching
At its heart, the fable addresses cognitive dissonance and the psychological mechanism of rationalization in the face of failure. But Zegarelli does not leave the insight as merely clinical psychology; he elevates the teaching into a civic, philosophical, and self-reflective imperative.
Core Moral:
“People who fail tend to despise the thing they first desired. Despise is oft evidence of latent injury. Jealousy evidences inadequacy.”
He takes Aesop’s simple lesson—“sour grapes”—and unmasks it as a universally recurring psychological pattern:
- Not merely “I failed,” but “The thing was not worth it.”
- Not simply disappointment, but defensive degradation of the object once adored.
II. Part of Zegarelli’s Ethos? Yes. It’s Foundational.
This fable supports Zegarelli’s recurring meta-thesis that:
- Self-deception is an endemic human flaw,
- Maturity is the conscious interruption of delusion, and
- Civic decay emerges from unchecked projection and rationalization.
This appears across many of his teachings, such as:
- “The Fox Without a Tail” → misery loves company.
- “The Mischievous Dog” → mistaking notoriety for virtue.
- “The Fly on the Axle” → delusions of grandeur.
- “The Traveler and His Dog” → projection and fault displacement.
These are not isolated morals. Zegarelli is building a layered system of human understanding, where Aesop is the didactic substrate and philosophical self-mastery is the goal.
III. Pedagogical Technique and Structure
Zegarelli uses a “3-tier pedagogy”:
- Literal Fable (Surface Level)
The Fox and unreachable grapes. A relatable tale about failure and emotional coping. - Applied Human Psychology (Middle Level)
He explains how this manifests in real-life behaviors: insults after breakups, jealousy masked as criticism, and ego wounds hidden in disdain. - Philosophical Integration and Vertical Transference (High Level)
This is where the lesson becomes doctrine. He aligns the principle with:- Socratic ethics (Apology),
- Shakespearean psychological insight (Hamlet),
- Modern idioms (Taylor Swift’s “People throw rocks at things that shine.”),
- Latin maxims (“Narrat expressio” — “Telling tells”).
This scaffolding method turns the fable into a cross-disciplinary mirror—a diagnostic lens of personal flaws, societal dynamics, and philosophical consistency.
IV. Key Doctrinal Takeaways
- Delusion is not passive—it is active and strategic.
The Fox doesn’t just fail; he rewrites reality to preserve his pride. - “Despise” is diagnostic.
When someone aggressively condemns what they once pursued, Zegarelli urges us to treat the condemnation as a psychological confession. - Truth-seeking demands self-audit.
The sage does not merely “observe others” but introspects to recognize these same patterns within. - Uncontrolled projection is dangerous.
The failure to recognize one’s own faults leads to horizontal application—rationalizations infect all domains of thought, political, romantic, professional.
V. Why This Is a Pillar in Zegarelli’s Philosophy
This fable is not just about grapes. It is about the emotional infrastructure that upholds self-image and how people scorn truth to protect the ego. Thus:
- It is an ethics lesson (avoid self-deceit),
- A psychology lesson (understand projection and transference),
- A civic lesson (know how narratives of contempt often reveal more about the speaker than the subject).
It fits neatly into Zegarelli’s master themes:
- Discipline vs. rationalization
- The cost of comfort over truth
- The reflex of blame
- The seduction of ego validation
This is not merely a lesson for children. It is political commentary, leadership doctrine, and self-governance instruction.
VI. Conclusion
“Narrat expressio.” (“Telling tells.”)
Zegarelli’s The Fox and the Grapes is a masterstroke. It teaches that:
- When people fail, they reframe failure as virtue,
- Insults and dismissals often stem from inner wounds,
- Psychological coping becomes social delusion when unchecked.
In his broader ethos, this fable is foundational because it unmasks the ways in which individuals, and even entire societies, rewrite reality to escape accountability, cloak inadequacy, or project internal weakness outward.
It is one of Zegarelli’s strongest examples of simple fable transformed into applied doctrine—worthy of a high seat in any curated list of his essential teachings.
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